Saturday, November 26, 2011

THE KASHMIRI IN ME.(PART 2)


Dear All,
First and foremost I want to thank all of you for reading and appreciating by previous post on Kashmir and Kashmiri's. I had it written long time back but never found the necessary confidence to post it. I always though "who would be interested in reading all this". But your comments and appreciation proved me wrong and I am so happy about it. It has given me the necessary confidence to post what I had written in continuation of what I posted earlier!

Please read on to know more details about us, Kashmiri pandits ...

LIFESTYLE.

Like everyone else Kashmiri families today are mostly nuclear in nature. Kids grow up, go to different places and it’s the mother-father that are left alone in the homes. This is the scenario that I see around. In the old days there were joint families, bunch of children, lot of fun and lot of action. Not anymore!

The basic lifestyle these days is similar to like anybody else. We eat, pray, sleep, watch TV …. Nothing unusual. Yea, a lot of stress is given to education. Girls, boys are treated alike in matters of education and otherwise [I am strictly talking about what I see around in my family and those of my relatives!]. Even in the old days importance to education was given for the girl child. The girls in our community are married off only when they have finished studying and are independent (financially, I mean). There is no hard and fast rule but yea girls are not married off young. But otherwise the restrictions are the same (in India they are universal, aren’t they?). No gundagardi. Keeping the izzat of the family. No night-outs. Curfews. Yea. You get it. Same old. Same old.

RITUALS.

This is very vast. There are so many things under this. Festivals. Birthdays. Marriages. And what not.I will try my best to explain it all to the best of my ability.

I will start with birthdays. We kashmiri’s  have 2 birthdays a year. Shocked? Well, most of the people are! Okie let me elaborate. One is the normal kind of birthday which everyone has and knows about. Like mine is on 9th of feb. The other birthday is based on the lunar calendar and it changes every year. Just like diwali does not fall on a same date every year. We differentiate between the two by calling one angreiz (English) and the other kashur (kashmiri). The Kashmiri birthday is celebrated by a small pooja. Yellow rice is made, you tie a red coloured thread on your wrist and put a tilak.  A myriad of kashmiri dishes are made (both veg and non veg). The other birthday is celebrated in the usual manner cake, party etc. you can even cut a cake on your Kashmiri birthday (in addition to the pooja), no worries, no rules.


Most important festival in our calendar is SHIVRATRI as we are Shiv devotees. It comprises of a 4-5 hour pooja called the vatak pooza. This is done by all Kashmiri families. However the intricacies may differ. For example, we make 5 vegetarian dishes on this day to offer the deity, others may make some other dishes, some families also make non-veg food. The next day of the pooja is known as salaam. On this day most of the families make non-veg food. Though some eat veg on this day as well. One of my relatives don’t touch, eat, look at non-veg food for some good 5,6 days prior to Shivratri. They can eat non-veg only after salaam.


Being Hindus we celebrate other festivals with equal amount of zest and enthusiasm. Other common festivals are celebrated in the same way as everyone else with maybe a minor difference here and there.

Though majorly we are Shiv bhakts, Kashmir has it’s own history of saints. I will mention those I know of. There is Mata Kheer Bhawani (also known as tulmul) temple in Kashmir. A replica of it has also been made in Jammu. Then there is bhagwan Gopinath ji, his ashram has also been made here in Jammu. But then different people have faith in different gods. Talking of me, I am SAI BABA bhakt.


Marriages are very important affairs. The preparations of which is started year before the actual occasion. And many a small events commemorate its starting. Like bengali’s we too are rice lovers, so when we buy rice, it is also a function called the toomul saatun, in which the aunties of the family come together to clean up the rice and have a hearty meal. All the things related to marriage like masalas (spices), jewellery, clothes etc are bought on auspicious days, the day should be shub.

I my family we have a lot of girls,especially on maternal side. So most of the weddings I have witnessed have been of girls. Hence I will write about the wedding from the girl’s side. The main events are the Mehandi Raat, Devgon and Baarat. Apart from these sure-shot events there can be optional events like satsang, cocktail parties, reception etc etc.

So, the mehandi-raat includes a lot of mehandi, a lot of traditional foot tapping kashmiri music (a kashmiri music party is called for the occasion), whole-lot of nach gaanna and traditional kashmiri food (veg or non-veg, totally optional). In short a very colourful night and the most anticipated function of the shaadi !
Devgon is basically a pooja, where the girl enters the womanhood. It involves kaane shraan, wearing new clothes (supplied by maternal relatives), wearing some of the jewellery and performing a mini-havan with help of a pandit ji.

The main event of shaadi includes the welcome of the groom’s side (by putting garlands around them!) varmaalla exchange by the couple, a lot of photographs, more food (mostly this event has vegetarian food). The shaadi does not necessarily take place during the day (as is perceived by many) it can also take place during the night. The event of shaadi includes a lot of things, bride and groom are made to make different poses holding hands, etc etc . No. not for the photographs! They mean some thing. Also the kanyadaan of the bride. I love this part, where the bride sits in her fathers lap! The couple is taught the meaning of marriage by the pandit. Then comes the vidai part, where the ladies (and some gents) cry to their heart’s content.

Next in line is the event of satrat the night immediately after the wedding (for example, if the vidai was in the morning, satarat will be in the night of the same day), where the bride and groom come as a married couple and non veg food is cooked. Then reception may-or-may not follow. That more or less ends the marraige function.

MUSIC AND HANDICRAFTS

Kashmiri music is really popular amongst the older generation like my mom, grandmom etc. As far as my knowledge is concerned I feel the impact of kashmiri music on younger generation (including me) is non-existant. My knowledge of it is limited to few famous folk songs which are usually played out in parties and marriages.




 Kashmiri dresses and handicrafts are famous all over the world. The beautiful Kashmiri embroidered sarees, shawls, coats and dresses have many takers all across the globe.

CUISINE

I have no patience whatsoever to talk about this vast and mouth-watering topic, so I will just let the pics do all the talking:








 These pictures are a torture to look at, especially when you are staying away from home like me and pine and lust to eat food like this.

Anyhow, that's all I have to say in this particular post.

Love:
SEPO



21 comments:

  1. Cultural talks are never complete without food-talks. A great narration, summary couldn't have been better.

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  2. Lovely post...I have been dreaming abt visiting Kashmir, hopefully one day!

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  3. Dishes are really mouth watering. Such a culturaly rich tradition. I had also answered ur delimma in ur last post.
    Can Kaane Shraan process be explained in detail?

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  4. haath mein kaangri :P

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  5. सच कहूँ तो दोनों पोस्ट एक साथ एक सांस में पढ़ गया..
    दोनों पोस्ट आपने पुरे दिल से लिखा है, ये हर शब्द में दिखाई देता है...बहुत कुछ मुझे पता नहीं था, जो इस पोस्ट के जरिये मालुम चला..

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  6. boy in stryped pyjamasNovember 28, 2011 at 4:12 PM

    very nyc.... i heard that during the varmala thng the couples in d frm ff "myonds" feed each other wen they have food.. nt themselves but each other...cn u pls ellaborate a lil

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  7. Too Good...
    Kashmiri Shawls and Topi(Woolen and hand-made) i have, so i know how it feels to have it on.
    And i am a foodie person, so the dishes mentioned specially the first one we call it "Baseer", its the root of lotus i suppose, i love it. Music i have not heard and handicraft is well known all over the world.
    Nice Post.
    There a beautiful kashmiri in you.
    -- Maddy

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  8. This is, SO interesting, Sepo! I loved it! The birthday thing is especially new to me, as is pretty much everything else here! The food looks delicious, the music/handicraft is beautiful, the marriage ceremonies sound particularly fun :D You think I could ask my parents to do my marriage Kashmiri-style? Or that'd be possible only if I married a handsome Kashmiri? I think I like the latter idea better. Let's start searching already now.

    When I was in PK this summer, I *almost* went to Kashmir - but didn't because my uncle changed his mind last minute. It was so heartbreaking!

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  9. sneha jiii..my dear friend..hey..talking of kashmir i was remembering once my sister visited der and returned to tell a story about how hot it was..v all asked in surprise, hottt?? yes, climate change has not spared the valley too it seems..how u doing yar? take care best wishes

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  10. @ Praveen ji

    Thanks, you are one of the driving force behind it :)

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  11. @Sunil Pandey

    thanks a lot for your comment! Kan Sharan, is actually a tradition which including bathing of the bride, the elders pour water on the bride while the younger ones hold a dupatta or something above her head.

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  12. @ Anonymous:

    Lotus root! Bingo :-)

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  13. @Zufash

    The man-hunt is on .... :P

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  14. Hi There,

    Really good piece of work!! You've done an amazing job of describing our culture. Like you, I too live away from my family and your post just brings back some amazing memories for me. I was born sometime during the migration so never really got the chance of going back and living the life which our ancestors left behind. I'd love to experience everything. Maybe if destiny permits :)

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  15. another masterpiece from a cool Kashmiri GAL....
    Shivratri....ahhh....i dont even remember wen i last celebrated dis Pious occcasion with my family....i miss it every year....but i still follow d tradations....and as u hv mentioned i can't eat any dish made outside. as i have eat complete SAROOCH food...n i try ma best 2 follow what my ancestors r following...Coz m Proud 2 be a KASHMIRI.....
    BTW for dis article...SIMPLY AWESOME.....

    Regards,
    Deepak

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  16. Great and modern ideas!

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  17. Its great to know about other cultures though some of the rituals are same same :) :)
    by the way 2 birthdays????? thats great :)

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  18. Hey SEPO
    Absolutely beautiful...icing on the cake:)

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  19. Hi Sneha,

    I've stumbled upon your "Kashmiri in Me" post and read through this 2nd part as well. I must say I thoroughly enjoyed reading them and love the photos. I admire all the elements of culture that you have mentioned. You are a proud Kashmiri who has respect for all the traditional values and rituals in your community. I can see a lot in common in what I've seen in my community and I guess it's more to do with being an Indian cause most of what you have mentioned is followed across the country.

    The food looks delicious and mouth-watering :) Glad to have read this post, it gave me a pleasant feeling reminding me about the rich cultural heritage that India has got. I always feel proud to be an Indian :)

    Cheers!! :)

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