Monday, October 26, 2015

Good Guy Vs Bad Guy

"Every girl wants a bad boy, who will be good just for her and every boy wants a good girl who will be bad just for him."

 This quote got me to thinking about the ever ranging war between the good guys and the bad guys. It is a well known fact that since ages, girls have been attracted to bad boys. The one with bikes and money, leather jackets and an attitude, anger and aggression, brawls and fights. She just can't help fantasizing about the bad boy while friend-zoning the good guy heads over heels in love with her. There are a lot of theories floating about this very strange attraction:

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1. The bad boy is not easily attainable, hence the challenge to pursue him is unmatched

The bad guy is not someone who can be tied into being in a relation with a same girl. Changing girlfriends (breaking their hearts on the way) is the part of the game the bad boy so excels in. Tying him down hence is a challenging task to say the least. Thus a girl takes the responsibility of taming this wild child into a more homely creature. While many succeed in doing so others are then seen crying in the arms of the friend-zoned guy.

2. The bad boy is rough and not all girls out there like chivalry
Not all girls want to be treated lady-like. Some want the casual stuff and that is exactly what drives them to the bad guy. Because the bad guy is not a gentleman, knows no chivalry. He won't open the doors nor pull any chairs for you. Thats precisely the reason why the prim proper girls stay away from him. And the bad guy is out hunting for them (as they are out-of-league). It is a vicious circle really!

3. The pain associated with heart-break involved in a relationship with the bad boy is addictive

We all know, being with the bad boy is not easy. He will be emotionally unavailable, prone to anger spurts, maybe two timing or just uninterested. The stress caused by being with someone like this is addictive. It makes it feel like love. When things are easy and we have a guy who is totally into us, does not cheat or insult. Things seem too good to be true and that freaks us out. Love has been made synonymous with pain by the books, movies and other marketing gimmicks. So when things are smooth in our love -life (like with a good guy) it all seems very un-love like to us. Believe it or not we dig drama in our lives.

4. Challenge to turn the bad guy into the good guy

The ultimate challenge of dating a bad guy is to change him into good. Make him into somebody you can introduce your parents to. Change the way he cuts his hair and dresses up. Erase various profanities from his vocabulary. There are a lot of tasks involved in transition from bad to good. None of these deter the girl involved in bringing about these changes. Whether or not all the hard-work will bear fruits depends on the destiny and the kind of mark the girl has left on the bad boy's heart.

5. The excitement of experiencing the bad guys world

Bad guy has a different way of life. If the good guy is daal chawal, bad guy is the biryani. If good guy is Bata, bad guy is the Charles Keith. If good guy is the desi Chinese served at Indian outlets, bad guy is the authentic Chinese served at Mainland china. His style is unmatched. He only shops from branded shops. He guzzles beer more than water. He smokes up stuff. He can tell his wines from each other. 80% of girls have had their first share of alcohol or smoke in the company of a bad guy. His pub hopping and loud music playing definitely attracts a fair share of girls to him.

In-spite of the above mentioned points it is baffling as to why any girl would subject her to such atrocities. At the end of the day every girl deserves to be with a guy who appreciates and adores her. It is very important to make right decision and move towards the right guy. While the bad guy may give you a temporary high, it is the good guy who will guarantee that you get your deserved share of permanent happiness.


Sunday, October 18, 2015

Guest Post - Finding love in a big city

The best thing about blogging for so many years is that you get to meet and develop strong bonding relationship with other fellow bloggers. A relation so good that you can ask them to write a blogspot for you and they do so without batting an eyelash. I am lucky to have one such fantastic friend, also known as Vishal Bheero. Vishal has composed a beautiful post about his romance with the city of dreams ~ Mumbai. Read on to know more about it....

Settling in a big city comes with its own perks and can be cumbersome as well as tiring the time we take to finally zero in. On one hand, we strive to be accepted and defined in the big city we longed to go and make dreams happen that gives us an identity and on the other hand, there is the struggling period where we try to make things work for us.

The whole process can take a toll on our lives as it comes as a culture shock. We long for love and having a partner, say in a place, like Mumbai where everything comes unlimited. It’s a city that has always fascinated me where I found love. I had a love-hate-love relationship with Mumbai that embraced me. It’s tough to make things work for us with tiring travel in locals, jostling among the crowd to get down and hunt for an apartment within the budget.

How do one finds love in Mumbai, a city that throws limitless sea of opportunity and kick us in the bum, at times? It’s a question that plagues me. Love is like sea and water, totally free and scarce at the same time. The truth is that we need a shoulder to rely on and someone we can share our life with, laughing at mundane matters, kissing or getting intimate. You would argue that it’s a very selfish outlook at life.

Life is how we paint it: Choosing to play the victim or harnessing something beautiful to make our tale of big city something we will always remember. Love is one aspect of life where we spend lovely moments together, watching movies, traveling in cabs or local trains and enjoying the sea breeze at Chowpatty or Bandra Bandstand.

It’s a very tricky question, to find love in a big city and I don’t mean wearing blinkers to spot the hottest babe or hunk in town. It’s love, it will happen, some will argue. It can happen in the coffee shop at Barrista, Starbucks or CCD. What better way to bond with someone over coffee and getting to know each other before you hit it off!! I think it’s something that works. You can bond over movies, literature, dance or arts. Sometimes, you spot someone and the bells in your heart signal that he or she is the one you would love to share memorable moments with. I always trust my instinct and saw some interesting people at Church-gate and Fort. Nothing happened since I didn’t take the plunge in striking a conversation. I feel that you should take chance for we can never know.

I found love in Mumbai quite strangely at the library where I was studying. Saw her beautifully dressed in black Salwar and there was something about her. It was just that!! How we hit it off together is just another story!! I am not spilling the beans. Having tea together at the tapdi, sitting together to study or walking all the way from Church-gate to Colaba, I knew she was the one. She became a huge pillar of support for me and love grew. I don’t think that I can ever love someone the way I did. It’s was weird and mysterious. But, it wasn’t meant to be.

It was my tale of finding love in a big city and she would always complete me as a person. So, the trick dudes and dudettes, is don’t freak out when you move to a big city. Love will happen to you. Star with casual dating and hanging at the cafe, college campus or wherever it pleases you-watching the sunrise or sunset at Marine Drive, any takers! I just love the place for it flirts with romance.

Enjoy every single moment in the big city for you can never know when things will come to an end and longing for that time to come back again. Like love, it doesn’t! Create new memories with new people and the only thing that remains is love.

Hope you all liked the post, thanks a ton to Vishal!

Thursday, October 1, 2015

The Father of all TAGS

I never shy away from tags. Even this one, with numerous questions did not deter me. So here I go doing my best answering all the questions of this TAG,

Ten how’s:
1. How did you get one of your scars?

Ans. I gave it to myself. In a fit of anger. It’s on my left arm.

2. How did you celebrate your last birthday?

Ans. With close friends. Dinner and drinks. Lots of surprises. Lots of love. It was good turning 26.

3. How are you feeling at this moment?

Ans. Alright-ish, I guess

4. How did your night go last night?

Ans. Pretty good. I saw The Intern. Robert De Niro and Anna Hathway rock.

5. How did you do in high school?

Ans. I was an average student.

6. How did you get the shirt you’re wearing?

Ans. I am wearing a dress actually and I bought it.

7. How often do you see your best friend(s)? Ans. Very very less.

8. How much money did you spend last month?
Ans. More than 60K.

9. How old do you want to be when you get married?

Ans. I don’t really want to answer this question.

10. How old will you be at your next birthday?

Ans. Twenty Seven.

Nine what’s:

1. Your mothers name?

Ans. Susheela

2. What did you do last weekend?

Ans. Met up with cousins and had a gala time

3. What is the most important part of your life?

Ans. Family

4. What would you rather be doing?

Ans. Travelling to Ireland. Meeting strangers, visiting cafes, writing my experiences in stories.

5. What did you last cry over?

Ans. Fight with a friend I guess.

6. What always makes you feel better when you’re upset?

Ans. FRIENDS (the sitcom) and food (the fattier the better)

7. What’s the most important thing you look for in a significant other?

Ans. Maturity.

8. What are you worried about?

Ans. My future

9. What did you have for breakfast?

Ans. Oats

Eight you’s:

1. Have you ever liked someone who had a girlfriend/boyfriend?

Ans. Guilty

2. Have you ever had your heartbroken?

Ans. Guilty

3. Have you ever been out of the country?

Ans. Yes

4. Have you ever done something outrageously dumb?

Ans. Yes. Many Times.

5. Have you ever been back stabbed by a friend?

Ans. Yes.

6. Have you ever had sex on the beach?

Ans. No

7. Have you ever dated someone younger than you?

Ans. Well, age is just a number!

8. Have you ever read an entire book in one day?

Ans. Duh, yeah

Seven who’s:

1. Who was the last person you saw?

Ans. My Land Lady. Eww she is creepy

2. Who was the last person you texted?

Ans. Office friend of mine.

3. Who was the last person you hung out with?

Ans. Office friend of mine

4. Who was the last person to call you?

Ans. Dad

5. Who did you last hug?

Ans. Office friend of mine

6. Who is the last person who texted you?

Ans. Office friend of mine

7. Who was the last person you said “I love you” to?

Ans. My best friend

Six where’s:

1. Where does your best friend(s) live?

Ans. Delhi. USA. Hyderabad. Scattered all over the place.

2. Where did you last go?

Ans. My favourite coffee shop

3. Where did you last hang out?

Ans. My favourite coffee shop

4. Where do you go to school?

Ans. St. Mary’s Presentation Convent Senior Secondary School.

5. Where is your favourite place to be?

Ans. Home. With a big cup of coffee and a good book.

6. Where did you sleep last night?

Ans. I prefer sleeping on my bed. All nights.

Five do’s:

1. Do you think anyone likes you?

Ans. Anyone? I think many people like me. Period.

2. Do you ever wish you were someone else?

Ans. Sometimes. But most of the days, I am thankful for who I am.

3. Do you know the muffin man?

Ans. No. Can I eat it/him?

4. Does the future scare you?

Ans. Yea. That’s the reason I don’t think about it. The ostrich theory. Wink.

5. Do your parents know about your blog?

Ans. Yea, they kinda do.

Four why’s:

1. Why are you best friends with your best friend?

Ans. Because I am the most compatible with her. With her it’s like living with family.

2. Why did you get into Blogging?

Ans. The year was 2009, I was bitten by the bug of writing a book. I wanted to get reviews for what I had written. Those days Orkut was ruling the roost, since I did not want to scrap on Orkut I decided to blog. The book in question is biting dust but thankfully the blog survived.

3. Why did your parents give you the name you have?

Ans. Because it rhymed with Neha, the name of my elder sister.

4. Why are you doing this survey?

Ans. Because it feels like I am giving an interview, which makes me believe that I am famous. So that’s why. Good for my pride

Three if’s:

1. If you could have one super power what would it be?

Ans. Flying. I hate the feeling of missing someone. With flying everything and everyone would be just a flight away.

2. If you could go back in time and change one thing, would you?

Ans. YES. In fact I would change a lot of things. For starters I would opt for English honours after school and NOT engineering!

3. If you were stranded on a deserted island and could bring 1 thing, what would you bring?

Ans. Wifi enabled laptop.

Two would-you-ever’s:

1. Would you ever get back together with any of your ex’s if they asked you?
Ans. An Ex is Ex for a reason. So probably not.

2. Would you ever shave your head to save someone you love?

Ans. Ouch, Yea I would. And then live without mirrors till the time it grows back.

One last question:

1. Are you happy with your life right now?

Ans: Hmmmm, things could be better but can’t complain. So yes. Pretty much content with what I have with a strong zest for making them even better!

Wowza! I did it. I thought it would be tough but it really wasn’t. I had fun doing this. Many people consider these tags to be a chore. I on the other hand feel they are a revelation. Each answer tells you something about yourself. And once you are in the flow of it, you don’t even have to spend time on thinking. The answers will just automatically start to flow. I suggest to try it when you have nothing to do.